Ask G

Dear G,

I'm having an issue- there is this guy in my life that I was briefly involved with, but have remained good friends with over the past few years. Recently him and his girlfriend broke up and he is terribly depressed. I am trying to help him get through this tough time.

But there is one problem

I am head over heels, in love with him.

What should I do? I am trying to help, but the fact that he is in love with her is killing me, because I know I would never treat him that way.

Sincerely- Unlucky in Love

Dear Unlucky in Love,

This is a tough one! However, I am sure you know NOT to get involved. Love is selfish, and there is nothing you can do about that. It is important for you to look out for your best interest, and resist the urge to become his knight in shining armor. You are obviously in love with him, and in order to give this relationship a fair shot, you cannot afford to be his rebound girl. Starting any sort of relation with your love interest at this point would be quite similar to throwing yourself over a cliff; It's at first very exciting at first, but soon enough you will realize that you're not flying... in fact you're heading for a real awakening. Don't mistake this thrill of novelty with the needed foundations of a serious relationship. If you choose to pursuit him before he is truly over his ex girlfriend, you are signing up to be a constant comparison to his previous quest, a position no significant other should be put up for.

So, Dear Unlucky in Love, just give him some space and when the time is right he will come along. Don't kick yourself if he starts dating someone soon, but remain patient and keep in mind that everything happens for a reason.

A la prochaine,

G